Pulling away from social media 


I didn’t mean to.  Really, I didn’t.

It just sort of happened.

A little over a year ago, I was quite the regular on Facebook.  I posted a lot, shared a lot, commented on a lot, participated in several various groups, and so on.

Then came the realization that I’m an Aspie (Asperger’s) and the desire to meet others.

Faith in humanity restored!  Score.  😉

I ended up on Twitter in July.  Suddenly I had something I’d never had before: a group of friends!  Lots of them.  Very cool people.

The thing is, Twitter moves fast.  And as Ferris Bueller said, “if you don’t stop to look around once in a while, you might miss it.”

Well, tweak that to say, “if you don’t check in constantly, you’ll miss stuff.”

And I didn’t want to miss stuff.

The multitasker I am not, so as I migrated over to Twitter, my Facebook activity took a serious nosedive.

Twitter is fun and all, and it was funner yet before The Drama.  I won’t rehash the gory details here, but let’s just say that it has become a source of sour memories that are still forming stable scars where regular tissue once was.

Despite the fact that the conflict (which lasted two and a half months) is now over, everyone has gone on their separate and varyingly-merry ways, the hurricane winds have died down, and the ocean of life has become calmer and more placid once again, I still find myself treading more carefully than I had expected I would.

I find myself hanging out more here, on WordPress.  The people here are more varied, interesting, and down-to-earth.  They’re the type who don’t have the time, patience, or stomach for most other social media.

The personality type I find here on WordPress suits me just fine.  I’ve encountered very little drama on WordPress.  The little spurts here and there are few and far between, and can easily be blocked, dealt with, ignored, and forgotten.  Wordpress is like a little archipelago, where each individual is somewhat isolated, although not in a lonely way.  Deep bonds and strong alliances form, but they seem to be less obvious and less prone to cliques, bullying, or trolling.

Sure, trolls do exist on WordPress, and trolling happens; but they’re likely to get little support, because after all, if they’re going to troll someone’s blog, their comments are going to be read primarily by the blog author and some of the people who read and/or follow that blog, most of whom are probably doing so because, oh, I don’t know, they like the author and what they have to say?  Wordpress doesn’t have “friends” lists or status updates that all congregate and aggregate on some central news feed or multi-member group, or threaded discussions anywhere other than on people’s blogs, which is like the author’s domain, their territory, and so most people tend to behave themselves.

There was a time when I tried to pull away from Facebook but couldn’t really do it.  I really did try, I made a concerted effort, but I just wasn’t successful.  I wondered if I’d ever be able to do it, or if I’d be “stuck” on there forever, feeling compelled to log in and check up on everyone.

Then something similar happened on Twitter, only on a much larger, faster-moving scale, with people (most of whom were) of like minds.  I wondered what would come of my involvement with Twitter, how much work I wasn’t going to get done because I had spent too much time there.

Well, I guess both questions have been answered, at least for the time being, and as far as I can see, which is far, but not infinite.

I think I’ll hang out here for a while almost exclusively, though.  This is actually my longest-running social media platform (more than eight years now, and counting).  I’m certainly not going anywhere, and the water is warmer.  Wordpress is a much more compatible environment for me.

Most of the coolest people I know on Twitter, I had actually met here on WordPress first anyway.

I still maintain my accounts on both platforms, and I have no plans to do away with either of them.  I don’t want to lose contact with anyone on either platform.  But the potential for volatility still leaves me gun shy; Twitter is too rapid and too visible, and people follow for the wrong reasons and trying to keep up with so many people can be a bit of a daunting task.  And although I mentioned groups before as a possible bad thing, they can be a good thing, too; I do feel their absence when I would like to talk in a smaller, private, and more intimate group, without having to resort to the group chat feature of the clunky direct message component.

I still make appearances from time to time, but it’s not nearly what it was.  I have re-appropriated social media (besides WordPress, which I don’t consider to be in the same class as the “true-blue” social media, such as Facebook and Twitter) to the short stretch of time every few days that I think it should have been for me all along.


9 thoughts on “Pulling away from social media 

  1. I’ve found some great people on Twitter. Mostly authors, native folks, spoonie(sporkie😝) peeps and autistic adults. For the most part I read, RT, sometimes comment. I am incapable of having a debate 140 characters at a time, so sidelines is where I stay. Plus I have found that Twitter is a black hole/time warp that sucks me in & spits me back out with several hours just lost. I like WordPress better. I can be by a word as I want and everyone has been very kind. 😍🌴🌸🌻💜💞😎

    1. Awesome!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼. This! ❤️. Yeah for the most part, Twitter has been awesome to me 😊. I’m starting to get a little more selective, which I wasn’t before. I was way too inclusive, which is good, but I wasn’t “discriminating” enough, meaning that I connected with everyone I could find, exercising poor judgment of character and compatibility, believing/figuring that if they were on the spectrum, too, then we’d magically have all this stuff in common and we’d always be able to relate to each other. Not so! I learned the hard way that there are a few who are a little on the toxic side, whose effect on me is to drag me down. Now I’m only interacting with those who are relatively positive (or at least neutral) and level-headed. I can’t handle those who delve into drama and aren’t based in reality 😉💖

      It’s much better now, although I think my main issue now is the sheer time-suckage lol. Time is short and precious, and I can’t afford to devote the same amount of time to Twitter as I used to 💞🌷

      I totally hear you on the debate part, too! 👏🏼👏🏼. Trying to do that with a 140-character limit is hell on earth. Too much opportunity for misunderstanding and misinterpretation. Especially if someone sees one tweet but not another connected/related tweet that might clarify things, and they take the one tweet they saw out of context. Gah lol 😉💖

    2. So glad people have been kind to you though! I love authors, native folks, and spoonies, too 😘❤️

  2. Great minds think alike! Fantastic musings.

    As we see it Facebook is slowly eating away at itself like cancer,
    people are becoming bored (Facebook never innovated ANYTHING)

    The younger generation are using Snapchat (FB Live is a sad attempt
    to play copy- cat) & just like main stream media. The audience is slowly
    walking away, or left a long time ago. So funny now the news resorts to
    posting Twitter comments as news. The opposite of actual news = opinions.

    Its 2017, & those who don’t evolve get left behind, in the digital world this
    evolutionary process happens 100x faster, & will continue to speed up as
    the technologies proliferate with increasing speed.

    Remember AOL & Yahoo? The younger generation do not. The same will
    be true in a few years about Facebook, the novelty factor faded years ago.

    1. Amen to everything you said, friend! I wholeheartedly agree. I’m not Snap-chatty yet, but give it time; I’m resistant to change lol ;). But when I do make the change, I do it for real–no hanky panky stuff 😉

      Lol yep, I remember AOL and Yahoo and stuff all too well (I’m old 😉 ). They were like the Too Big To Fail of the ’90s (and early twenty-oh’s, if I feel like being generous lol). And yeah, nobody even mentions them anymore, not even the Baby Boomers (they’re more addicted to Facebook lol). ❤

  3. I definitely understanding pulling away from social media. I have to constantly do it. Facebook is like the most addictive site ever and exhausting at times trying to keep up with everything. I really like this website, though I don’t leave many comments and keep the comments off of my posts on pretty much every social media platform I have. I just don’t have the same capacity as other people to socialize and very sensitive to comments, even positive ones. I get anxiety just checking my email. Anyways, I always enjoy reading your blogs even though I may stay silent quite often. I hope all is well. Take care. ❤

    1. Aww thank you so much, luv 💜💙. I can really relate to what you said. Exhausting in relation to social media is right! And I nodded emphatically at the anxiety while checking email, too. My own social capacity has dimmed somewhat, so yeah, I have an idea about what you mean 💚. I think our desires to set limits on stuff like this is part of our self-care, which is so important, and I’m so glad for you that you’re doing that 💗💗. I hope all is well for you, too! I hope you have a lovely day 🌺🌷🌺

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