I didn’t mean to. Really, I didn’t.
It just sort of happened.
A little over a year ago, I was quite the regular on Facebook. I posted a lot, shared a lot, commented on a lot, participated in several various groups, and so on.
Then came the realization that I’m an Aspie (Asperger’s) and the desire to meet others.
Faith in humanity restored! Score. 😉
I ended up on Twitter in July. Suddenly I had something I’d never had before: a group of friends! Lots of them. Very cool people.
The thing is, Twitter moves fast. And as Ferris Bueller said, “if you don’t stop to look around once in a while, you might miss it.”
Well, tweak that to say, “if you don’t check in constantly, you’ll miss stuff.”
And I didn’t want to miss stuff.
The multitasker I am not, so as I migrated over to Twitter, my Facebook activity took a serious nosedive.
Twitter is fun and all, and it was funner yet before The Drama. I won’t rehash the gory details here, but let’s just say that it has become a source of sour memories that are still forming stable scars where regular tissue once was.
Despite the fact that the conflict (which lasted two and a half months) is now over, everyone has gone on their separate and varyingly-merry ways, the hurricane winds have died down, and the ocean of life has become calmer and more placid once again, I still find myself treading more carefully than I had expected I would.
I find myself hanging out more here, on WordPress. The people here are more varied, interesting, and down-to-earth. They’re the type who don’t have the time, patience, or stomach for most other social media.
The personality type I find here on WordPress suits me just fine. I’ve encountered very little drama on WordPress. The little spurts here and there are few and far between, and can easily be blocked, dealt with, ignored, and forgotten. Wordpress is like a little archipelago, where each individual is somewhat isolated, although not in a lonely way. Deep bonds and strong alliances form, but they seem to be less obvious and less prone to cliques, bullying, or trolling.
Sure, trolls do exist on WordPress, and trolling happens; but they’re likely to get little support, because after all, if they’re going to troll someone’s blog, their comments are going to be read primarily by the blog author and some of the people who read and/or follow that blog, most of whom are probably doing so because, oh, I don’t know, they like the author and what they have to say? Wordpress doesn’t have “friends” lists or status updates that all congregate and aggregate on some central news feed or multi-member group, or threaded discussions anywhere other than on people’s blogs, which is like the author’s domain, their territory, and so most people tend to behave themselves.
There was a time when I tried to pull away from Facebook but couldn’t really do it. I really did try, I made a concerted effort, but I just wasn’t successful. I wondered if I’d ever be able to do it, or if I’d be “stuck” on there forever, feeling compelled to log in and check up on everyone.
Then something similar happened on Twitter, only on a much larger, faster-moving scale, with people (most of whom were) of like minds. I wondered what would come of my involvement with Twitter, how much work I wasn’t going to get done because I had spent too much time there.
Well, I guess both questions have been answered, at least for the time being, and as far as I can see, which is far, but not infinite.
I think I’ll hang out here for a while almost exclusively, though. This is actually my longest-running social media platform (more than eight years now, and counting). I’m certainly not going anywhere, and the water is warmer. Wordpress is a much more compatible environment for me.
Most of the coolest people I know on Twitter, I had actually met here on WordPress first anyway.
I still maintain my accounts on both platforms, and I have no plans to do away with either of them. I don’t want to lose contact with anyone on either platform. But the potential for volatility still leaves me gun shy; Twitter is too rapid and too visible, and people follow for the wrong reasons and trying to keep up with so many people can be a bit of a daunting task. And although I mentioned groups before as a possible bad thing, they can be a good thing, too; I do feel their absence when I would like to talk in a smaller, private, and more intimate group, without having to resort to the group chat feature of the clunky direct message component.
I still make appearances from time to time, but it’s not nearly what it was. I have re-appropriated social media (besides WordPress, which I don’t consider to be in the same class as the “true-blue” social media, such as Facebook and Twitter) to the short stretch of time every few days that I think it should have been for me all along.